Is It Rude to Knit or Crochet in Public?

October 08, 2019 4 min read 13 Comments

Is It Rude to Knit or Crochet in Public?

Have you ever been in public and had the passing thought of, “Is it rude that I’m knitting right now?” 

Chances are, the thought didn’t occur to you while you were home alone watching TV or sitting on a park bench. But, maybe you were crocheting while waiting for a movie to start, or sitting through a community meeting, or on a crowded train, and someone gave you a look, or worse, several “looks.”  You may have been flat out reprimanded at some sort of gathering or function because someone else believed the answer was yes, it’s rude, and you needed to know how they felt about it. 

As people of the world, we can likely agree that we wouldn’t pull out a project in the middle of a wedding or a funeral, or dinner with family (though maybe you would, and hey, we’re not judging). 

But there is so much grey area out there that it warrants the question—what about when you’re “with company” or at a non-yarn specific gathering? 

Is it rude to knit or crochet in public? 

Firstly, we know that knitting actually helps us stay more present in a social situation that might otherwise make us nervous or anxious, so while it looks like we're distracting ourselves, we’re actually further grounding ourself into the present moment. But because other people may not know that, we run into some debate.

After crowd sourcing some feedback, it turns out that the majority of us feel it’s no worse than texting or using our phones in public. In fact, it's even less of an offense, because at least we can still watch and listen to what’s happening around or in front of us. In other words, it’s not as disengaging.

We've crocheted or knit at our kid’s swimming lessons and birthday parties, at the beach, during lectures and in waiting rooms. Often, we actually get compliments when needle-crafting in public—lots of curious looks, or comments on how the onlooker used to knit or crochet and should take it up again. 

Even in the workplace, some of our bosses don’t even mind if we knit during meetings, but will give us a head’s up if a super-head-honcho is coming in, one who might not be as in-the-loop (no pun intended) about our ability to multi-task. 

There are, of course, the kids who are embarrassed by pretty much everything we do anyway—one woman’s daughter said she thinks it’s rude even if they’re just sitting and watching TV together. “I told her don't talk to me if it bothers her.” Sounds good to us. 

However, there is the matter of nosy other parents—one woman, an activities director at her child’s school, dealt with a parent carrying on about how she “dared” to knit during the kid’s sports game.

This is where we enter the issue of “Does it look like I'm not paying attention when I should be?” Typically, this comes up when we're part of an “audience” of some sort. 

The majority of people agree on certain group situations where people have gathered to watch and listen to something specific, say, a performance in a theater, or a wedding, where it's probably best to put the needles down. If even the mere perception of not giving your full attention to what's going on affects the spirit of the moment when you should be reflective, attentive, and keep the mood solemn, use your best judgement. 

And, while we may not realize it, our knitting and crocheting could be a distraction to someone else—the sound, the movement—and we don’t want to inhibit someone else’s ability to pay attention, so it's important to be mindful of the people around us. (Tip: most bamboo needles don’t make noise!) 

Church has been a hot topic in the Facebook groups for some time. Is it rude to knit or crochet there? Some people say it’s a no-go there, that people have told them it’s “God’s time.” One woman said that back in the day, her grandmother told her that every stitch she knit on Sunday would have to be taken out with her nose when she got to heaven. Yikes! Another woman left a church never to return again after a woman scolded her for working on a project. However, yet another woman said her Pastor loved that she knit and is trying to get a “fidget basket” program going for other members of the congregation.

When it comes to family time, people are also split. People have gotten the rare disapproving comment from their in-laws or even their spouse, again claiming that it’s taking attention away from them. 

One woman said that her father finds the sound of the needles distracting while he’s driving, so that’s the only time she doesn’t knit. 

That leads us to the real, ultimate answer here: 

There is no right or wrong. 

There is no yes or no. There is only us sharing our experiences and using our best judgement. If you can’t sit through a 12-step meeting or a plane ride without your knitting, take it with you, and just be mindful that you're not elbowing the person next to you. 

We all have a pretty good gauge (again, no pun intended) of when something is or isn’t appropriate, and if we look deeply enough, we can tell whether we’re self-conscious about what other people think for no good reason, or, if our gut is saying, after taking the temperature of the room, that it’s best to hold off.

And hey, everything is relative...one woman said that when she dies, she literally wants everyone at her funeral to beknitting or crocheting. “I want lively music and dancing and lots of fun happening. If my loved ones love me as much as I have loved them, then they WILL bring their knitting and crochet and celebrate my life by celebrating theirs.”


13 Responses

Marilyn Davis
Marilyn Davis

January 15, 2020

I knit and crochet….but during worship is a personal choice……but during church fellowship I teach….not during worship….I travel and have taught on the bus trips…… and taught on the phone to people that need help….have taught the many people in many walks of life….it is to be shared……where you craft is personal……as my grandma would say…..”Stick to your knitting”

Aniqa Prouse
Aniqa Prouse

January 08, 2020

My girls and I crochet during church and in other public gatherings we avoid crocheting at weddings or funerals but we have noticed that while we crochet during church we are more mindful of what the pastor is saying so much so that we are able to even quote him after the service and for weeks after the projects that we do crochet are prayer shawls and baby jackets for the homeless and other items for church charities it is truly a blessing to see my 16 and 18 year old daughters crochet something magnificent for charitable causes

Sue
Sue

January 01, 2020

I was taught to knit at 9 yrs old. At 71 now, I knit for homeless people and disable, donating boot socks, hats, mittens, scarves. I hate to sit idle. Knitting is a joy. We have a craft we love. I wouldn’t knit in church, but I think maybe others are just plain jealous, sometimes because they don’t know how to knit. Let’s offer to teach them.

Athena
Athena

January 01, 2020

I crochet or loom knit at home in front of the tv and at drs waiting rooms, in the truck(it helps calm me with my husband’s driving. LOL) I love the women who thought friends and family crocheting and or knitting at her funeral would be great. Count me in on that. I told my husband and he said ok. 😊❤

Happy crocheting, loom knitting and knitting everyone. 😊

Dawn Dixon
Dawn Dixon

December 28, 2019

I have been crocheting since I was a preteen. I find that crocheting helps me focus and it soothes my carpel tunnel syndrome prone hands.

Quinnelle coker
Quinnelle coker

December 28, 2019

Can not knit in some public places in Georgia.Was told knitting needles are concerted as a weapon.

Lisa
Lisa

November 26, 2019

As Father Jim noted to the rest of the congregation, “Idle hands are the Devil’s playground.”

Dianna
Dianna

November 14, 2019

I don’t knit at funerals or weddings. I’m over medicated and will sleep at almost every meeting I’m just Sitting in. My solution to church meetings is I always work on humanitarian projects. If someone criticizes i tell them it’s a good thing their nose is in no danger. The space around me in public is my personal space. I’ve never had anything more critical than someone ask whether I’m knitting or crocheting and what it is I’m making. Knitting keeps me happy. I’m not concerned if it makes someone unhappy. That’s their problem to solve.

Marilyn
Marilyn

October 31, 2019

I knit during in-service and any place else I choose. I have never had a negative comment.

Terry B
Terry B

October 14, 2019

What a great article. I’m sure we’ve all been through these thoughts and wished that all people were knitters or crafters like the olden days and would understand the experience.

Carol MM
Carol MM

October 13, 2019

My friend and i went on a weekend bus trip to a major fibre festival. We had dinner with 2 other ladies (convenience, and not by choice). While waiting for our food to be delivered, my friend and I pulled out our knitting. One of the other knitters told us we were being rude. We were on a knitting weekend! No, my friend and i did not put away our knitting.

Lynn
Lynn

October 13, 2019

It’s rude ONLY if you are knitting and NOT minding your own business. I don’t have an issue with people “doing their own thing” in public or wherever.

Jackie O'Neil
Jackie O'Neil

October 13, 2019

For years people have insisted we multitask. So I feel I’m wasting time if I don’t. I can listen far better in meetings if I’m knitting. At least I’m accomplishing something tangible vs starring at my phone. And where are all our freedoms going, I’m tired of people always trying to have control over me. If you are not paying me a wage, mind your business and I’ll mind mine.

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